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Podcast 061: How To Recognize a Cheater


Having coached and consulted thousands of clients over the decades as a holistic life coach and ordained minister, I am reaching deep into my toolbox to bringing you some nuggets of wisdom when it comes to recognizing a man who is a cheater.

Yes, women are cheaters too, but this podcast is about men who prefer the cheating lifestyle.

Just how do you spot a cheater?

It's actually quite easy, when you know what to look for.

Today's podcast is brought to you by Sacred Relationships. Enroll HERE.

 

Rivendell

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So true and so clearly explained, thank you so much Dr Cha-Zay! How many people know about the body-Temple they're living in... constantly damaging it with our thoughts, emotions and actions... I've always felt that cheating primarily occurs in imagination and thoughts... I can't agree more with the Scriptures declaring that before a man has committed adultery in action, he first committed it in his heart. Of course this applies to women ! :laugh: Then the majority of people must be dreadful sinners :sick::notworthy::eek:... So this podcast makes me want to know more about those people who aren't sexually attracted to anyone, this trend is now being discussed in great lengths as though those people belonged to another sexual type other than the ones we usuallly describe, but as far as I know, the "core" of the topic hasn't been reached, since I suspect there is more to it than the usual explanations such as previous emotional shocks, genetical factors etc. I once read that more and more young people acknowledge their belonging to such a category. I suppose there must be other interpretations to those above-listed as regards a spiritual evolution.
Moreover, I've been lately wondering about those people who block their feelings, shielded behind a "heartwall" that is so hard that they seem to have become insensitive, whereas their suffering inside is so intense. I don't know if my feeling is true or relevant, because I now tend to think that we generate more and more people trapped in themselves, maybe due to environmental and social pollution, lack of respect, neglect and so on, but... not only. I'd very much like to have some explanations on the matter !
Thank you very much for your food for thought... so welcome in our times.
 

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Cha~zay, you are a role model in how to be amazing, loving, compassionate, wise, super awesome, powerful, peaceful, fun, smart, caring, present, accepting, successful, gorgeous, discerning, INTUITIVE, a vessel, and more.
 

Jeannie

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Thank you Dr. ChaZay, It's great podcast! and it does feel different watching the video then listening to the podcast...

Hi @Rivendell, are you referring to "Asexuality"? I would like to learn more about it too! (this term is new to me I hope I am using it right... )

I had chatted with friends once on this, and they think my thoughts a bit crazy...:geek:
The way I see this trend...I am wondering maybe the planet is now overpopulated... In the history the population was periodically reduced by war and epidemic. And now we have a trend of claimed asexuality, declined fertility rates, improved LGBT rights...etc. do they occur coincidentally... Could this be a "peaceful way" Universe implemented into the species for population control...?

In addition, the structure of society is changing. The average family size nowadays is about 2.5. (this indicates that we now have more singles and childless parents) Many concerns about the birth rates, and some governments proposed campaigns encouraging people to have more sex...

Do we need more sex or more children, What's your thoughts about this...?

I am thinking maybe in the far future, ideally, humen evolve to love everyone equally, beyond the ones of same bloodline. We no longer need the family system, nor an intimate relationship with special somebody, as we are able to open our hearts to strangers. I am not an expert in sociology, just some thoughts in reading the topic,.. it's an interesting topic! I look to learn more on this.
 

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Thank you very much Jeannie, asexuality is the topic I wanted to mention, though I don't fully understand it as you can guess from my questions! And I find your suggestions very interesting: that people intuitively feel the need to "correct" a crazy trend as regards overpopulation and the maintening of huge economic gaps due to selfish interests.

Therefore, some higher selves may wish to reverse the trend thanks to asexuality... I feel that humans have experienced so much about gender issues that they have reached the point where old templates are no longer useful, and a "down to the earth" view regarding mating to survive is not a priority anymore. I venture (hum!) that what could be put forward on the human evolution universal curriculum (!) now could be a new way of being with The Other, in a boundary-less manifestation (sorry, limitless doesn't seem to fit!) transcending the usual divide between male-female aspects. Since we all carry those two ingredients within us in different "quantities", maybe we are now summoned to unite them at every level: astral, etheric and now, physical, in order to be truly spiritual beings and to manifest real love. Well, that seems ambitious doesn't it ?!!! (how much work does it require, too :speechless:)

So, "do we need more sex or more children" is a fascinating question! Maybe we can ask too if the way we make sex and children doesn't need to be changed. What both "activities" have in common is the use of a creative power we have been granted... taking into account a sacred objective. Dr Cha-Zay has expressed the true nature of sexuality in -to my mind- an unsurpassed way I've never found elsewhere. In fact, I reacted to her last podcast on "cheating" bearing in mind this other one where she talks about sacred geometry (I'm quite addicted to that one :)!) ; so I have been wondering if asexuality, in some cases, could be the result of a choice made by the higher self in order to clean up our old fashioned templates that still cause so many sufferings, especially with the overwhelming porn children and teenagers are being submitted to. And Jeannie, I can't agree more with your conclusion : the urge "to love everyone equally, beyond the ones of same bloodline", to be "able to open our hearts to strangers", since "heart" is the key word.Thank you very much! :love::love::love:
 

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Some thoughts:

Sexual energy comes from chakras 1 & 2 (Is that right?). Energy from chakra 2 is related to sex and creativity.

If someone is asexual, does that include them not being creative as well?

It's hard to believe that a person can be truly asexual as there is constant creation happening regardless of what we identify as or label ourselves with.

When observing some people on video who identify as asexual, I see a lot of fear and pain. It seems as if they've chosen celibacy because of unresolved issues, and call it asexuality.

Monks are celibate, but they're probably far from asexual. Some of them may have learned to channel that energy.

It seems like a blockage of energy, maybe in chakra 2, of sexual energy when someone is not connected to themselves in that sense for whatever reasons.
 
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Rivendell

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Thank you Allyria for your relevant comments! Being asexual doesn't mean not creative of course. The creativity of a person can be expressed on so many levels, artistic, intellectual, emotional, and in so many activities, even chat :D (we all know such people who, beyond their fertility years, seem to have converted their creative power into the pouring out their tiniest emotions/thoughts through endless talks)... As you rightly state, some so-called "asexual people" can have previously experienced so tremendous psychological and, above all, emotional outcomes that they built a "sexual and maybe heartwall" (hence my other questioning). I refer to a couple of friends who, though married, say they are asexual but needed this legal bond in order to face life together, due to a tragic past and family lineage: they seek mutual protection and manage to have a richer life, travelling together, taking pleasure in common discoveries -though they still have unresolved issues, but are fully aware of them: they, as you underline, acknowledge blockages of energy.

In fact, my question mostly refers to those more spiritual entities who really live their asexuality, bearing no such burdens, where it seems to be a conscious choice in order to achieve a life according to values, therefore I'd like to know more about those values and principles. According to me (and I may be wrong!:confused:), those conscious beings have reunited their male-female aspects to a point where they don't need sexuality anymore. I think such a level mustn't be reached "artificially" through some occult practices, but comes naturally as a phase in a spiritual process. Therefore monks (and nuns!) can be part of a spiritual community and not be truly spiritual beings, just beings on a way to something whatever it is they are seeking and need to achieve on their spiritual path. And whatever it is that we manifest, I believe that it reveals the kind of energy we use.

Also, reading your inspiring comments, I would say that I better understand why the word "asexual" has always bothered me!!! To me and in the specific case I refer to, it doesn't mean that the person is neither male nor female, androgynous, and can't manifest creative powers ; on the contrary, I think that those two aspects can be well balanced and manifest according to situations. And I remember what Gandhi wrote: he needed a very active sexual activity for many years and suddenly imposed chastity to his wife, knowing that she would suffer from both situations as her evolutionary path was different. Thus he fully acknowledged that he hadn't come to terms with sexuality until very late in his life and that his will caused some damage. This gives me food for thought, considering the spiritual degree he manifested otherwise. Therefore there seems to be lots of things to think about on the subject, regarding sexuality, creativity, heartwalls and the power of the enlightened heart. Thank you very much, Allyria and Jeannie, for your comments! :love::love::love:
 

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Totally welcome, Rivendell.

Cha~zay taught me that sex happens all the time, regardless of genital/physical contact. (There's literature from Walter Russell on this, too. More to read! :) ) Something about how a mixture of energy is essentially the definition of 'sex'. Here's an amazing way it's described by Walter Russell: http://www.philosophy.org/the-sex-principle.html

So, asexuality is an inhibition or disconnection from the body due to those issues you stated.

Hm, yes. We can definitely ascend to a level of not desiring physical/genital sex for sure. It can also be a level of expansion/contraction of the soul. I've been there because my lower chakras were out of power (Edit: low in power) and had some imbalances. For a few months I was not interested in sex at all. Never thought of it (Or was undesirous of it). It also had to do with low physical energy, recovering from surgery, etc.

Have you taken the Sacred Relationship course by Cha~zay? It's awesoome. Mind-blowing. (Two words I use a lot in this community. :D)

I don't understand, why has the word bothered you?

You have friends you can observe right there! Interesting to hear about their set-up. I haven't met anyone, yet.

Sex has to do with chakra 1, I re-discovered today in a post in the Golden Sun section. Come to Golden Sun membership and read all the fascinating stuff! :geek:
 
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Mary Ann

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Oh why I didn't know this 7 years ago. I guess there's a reason for it. But your videos saved me from another trap and time revealed to me that my choice was right.
 

Rivendell

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"All thinking is registered in light. All light is sex expression. Light is the language of all thinking. Light is the energy of all thinking. All energy is the energy of sex expression. There is no other energy." Great thinking Allyria, from Walter Russell! The link between the energy of thinking, light and sex is logical then and I need to think about all this, since this is the essence of everything manifested. Thank you very much for this piece of information!

And to answer your question: why does the word asexuality bother me? It's because of the "a" in the word, which means "to suppress", so states the absence of sexual aspects. To me, this can't be, both aspects are present and manifest differently, in different situations, even if the person hides it or denies it. And I suppose that a reunited being, who is made whole again, masters the use of both aspects. In this I refer to those alchemical drawings, when the newborn creature is male and female. I've also found "asexual" as a synonym of "androgynous", which is a nonsense then. So I wonder if we don't have more and more of those enlightened beings in the world today, coming to show us a new step in our evolutionary process.

Thank you too for your suggestions regarding the course and Golden Sun membership... which I have been contemplating for some time, but for the time being, I'm busy with the writing of my thesis which is due in a few weeks, pressure is getting higher everyday (hum! I'm often writing those posts as a most welcome break...):( !:love:
 

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Etymology!

/a-/ = "not, without"
sex = from Latin sexus "a sex, state of being either male or female, gender,"
(etymonline.com)

When you read the word, it literally says, "a sexual it". :)

When one is resisting something, that too is being a part of it. One side of the spectrum doesn't/cannot exist without the other. Suppression doesn't mean absence of, more like a focus of energy on.

Strength and clarity for you on your thesis! Great quotes.
 
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Rivendell

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Great Allyria! This is precisely the point! Thank you for your clarification!
As life is really magical :thumbsup:, I've just found an article from Dr Tom Campbell, physicist and researcher on consciousness, who brings forward profound ideas regarding cheating as a genetical old-fashioned habit, and what a man and a woman are to become nowadays. It really answers the questions about cheating, sex and spirituality. Here is the link to his 17 page article :
http://www.my-big-toe.com/uploads/New_PM-PF_book__Version_7.pdf

Enjoy the reading, so clear and gripping altogether... definitely to be recommended!:geek:
 
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